Whakaaio

After someone dies, you are asked to make decisions when your ability to decide has already been stretched thin. They come quickly and in layers. Some are large and visible. Others are small and constant, but no less draining. What kind of service feels right. What music to choose. Who should be there. What they would have wanted. Alongside these are the everyday decisions that continue quietly in the background. What to eat. Whether to answer the phone. When to return to work. Whether to...

Kia ora, As Christmas approaches, the world seems to get louder. Shops fill with music, calendars fill with obligations, and everywhere you turn there are reminders of what this season is supposed  to look like, happy families, full tables, easy laughter, traditions carried on without interruption. However Christmas looks for you this year, it’s enough. But for many people, Christmas is not light and easy. It can be the first Christmas without someone you love. Or the third, or the tenth...

When someone we love dies, we grieve the life they lived, the memories we shared, the moments we held, the stories we can still tell. But there is another kind of grief that sits quietly beneath the surface. A grief for the future that never had a chance. No one really talks about this part .It doesn’t come with a funeral service or a sympathy card. It slips in during the ordinary moments, the ones where you suddenly realise what will never happen now. Grief for the future that never had a...